Tips
A sexy tip for the new year
When you’re together, take 12 identical square pieces of paper of the same color. Each of you should write 6 notes – each for something you’d like your partner to do for you in bed. Agree to open one note each month (either at the beginning, middle or end, as long as it doesn’t become cause for arguments). Since they are all at the same color and should be folded, you can’t know ahead whose note would be chosen. Commit to fulfilling that fantasy for your partner, and they to fulfill yours, if only that one time. Even if one gets theirs a few months in a row, don’t quit playing – it will balance out by the end of the year.
I wish you a year full of mutual excitement and surprises!
Lose control
After watching “50 shades darker” with my partner, here are some conclusions. This movie is better than “50 shades of Gray” – better filming, very arousing. It can be a source for some ideas of things we could want to do or want done to us.
Many women tell me they fantasize about being controlled in bed by their partner, being told what to do. It can be very exciting to lose control over what is happening. Their partner off course has to be sensitive, understanding and thoughtful – or there would be consequences!
“Yes”, I tell them, “you want to control even your loss of control”. And that is the reason it remains only a fantasy. If you want to play this game, decide on general boundaries – and trust your partner to be creative and lead the way.
You can start small: next time you go out, leave your underwear at home. You’d be surprise how liberated and excited you could feel. It could definitely be a refreshing change in your routine.
Go see this movie with your partner – you’d have great sex afterwards.
Blessed weekend
I want to offer you some tips that would arouse your sexuality and get you to a experiencing true sexual pleasure and great wonderful orgasms.
First – plan to have sex and make time for it. Spontaneous sex is very nice and fun, but sexual pleasure requires some premeditation. If you want to have sex in the evening, let your partner know and make enough time for it. Think about it during the day, and approach it with excitement and expectation for your next pleasure. When our focus is sexual, our energy is directed towards sexuality and we can fully experience and enjoy it.
Imagine how you want sex to occur. Do you want it wild and have your partner carry you away in a storm? Do you want it to be romantic, intimate and gentle with hugs, kisses and caresses?
Tell your partner exactly how you want to be touched. Do you want them to be gentle? Teasing? Go straight to the spot? Don’t be too shy to show them what is most pleasing for you.
Observe yourself. Explore your genitals and learn where exactly do you like to be touched.
During the day, engage in positive thoughts as to how easy and fun it is for you to orgasm.
I invite every single one of you to contact me and learn how to develop your sexuality; How to be present and enjoy great sexual pleasure and orgasms that keep getting more and more powerful. Remember – every accomplishment begins with deciding to try!!
Hand job or Lingam massage
Women often (or sometimes) touch their partner’s penis with their hands. Usually this happens in one of two occasions: first, when they don’t feel like having sex, but they realize their partner is into it, so it’s a quick and easy way to please him without sex. Second, as part of intercourse, at times a man can’t come from penetration, either because he already came once and this is round two, or because a hand job helps him relax and release.
Imagine touching a penis not in order to make him cum but for pure pleasure, without crossing the point of no return towards the orgasm.
It requires attentiveness, presence, and a different approach – you can enjoy it too, instead of working towards something. Start by massaging his inner thighs upwards in the direction of the penis. You can touch around it very slowly, or whatever you imagination suggests, as long as you are not trying to make him cum.
You can use grape seed oil for lubrication, as this oil is fine in intercourse as well.
