The sexual drama triangle includes three elements: The perceptual element, the behavioral element and the physical element. The perceptual element: The way we perceive ourselves and our sexuality. This perception is based on the same conditionings that we have embraced as our own during our life, although they are not ours. Because of these conditionings, we have become our biggest critic. This cause our sexual perception to deal mainly with judgment, control, guilt, shame,…

Many women require a fantasy in order to orgasm, especially women with clitoral orgasms. For thousands of years women would not discuss sex or anything related to it, not with others nor amongst themselves. Up until the 1970’s there was no discourse regarding women’s sexual fantasies. There was no appropriate vocabulary for it and no unifying symbol system through which to describe their sexual emotions. Women were forbidden to disclose having erotic thoughts or…

Women keep asking me how I do it – how do I manage to teach women to control their orgasms?My response to them is I am not the one doing it. They are.In the past, I couldn’t control my orgasms. They controlled me. In order to come I had to put in time.My husband used to call me “the weekend orgasm theater” because in the middle of the week I couldn’t find the necessary…

Long lasting relationships can decrease sexual desire. In the beginning most couples don’t talk about this fact because they both want sex. Even couples that are not very sexual understand in their subconscious that sex is important to substantiating the relationship. And of course being in love also contributes a great deal to this as well. As the relationship matures and the sense of certainty in the relationship grows, couples find themselves more and…