New self perception will help you create, and to reconnect to your sexual abilities. In these abilities you will find recognition of your own value, open mindedness, compassion, self love. Self acceptance, a positive attitude, faith in yourself and the notion that I am who I am. This change will allow you to put yourself and your needs in the center of your life. It can be manifested by giving yourself compliments, letting go…
The sexual drama triangle includes three elements: The perceptual element, the behavioral element and the physical element. The perceptual element: The way we perceive ourselves and our sexuality. This perception is based on the same conditionings that we have embraced as our own during our life, although they are not ours. Because of these conditionings, we have become our biggest critic. This cause our sexual perception to deal mainly with judgment, control, guilt, shame,…
Many women require a fantasy in order to orgasm, especially women with clitoral orgasms. For thousands of years women would not discuss sex or anything related to it, not with others nor amongst themselves. Up until the 1970’s there was no discourse regarding women’s sexual fantasies. There was no appropriate vocabulary for it and no unifying symbol system through which to describe their sexual emotions. Women were forbidden to disclose having erotic thoughts or…
Women keep asking me how I do it – how do I manage to teach women to control their orgasms?My response to them is I am not the one doing it. They are.In the past, I couldn’t control my orgasms. They controlled me. In order to come I had to put in time.My husband used to call me “the weekend orgasm theater” because in the middle of the week I couldn’t find the necessary…
Long lasting relationships can decrease sexual desire. In the beginning most couples don’t talk about this fact because they both want sex. Even couples that are not very sexual understand in their subconscious that sex is important to substantiating the relationship. And of course being in love also contributes a great deal to this as well. As the relationship matures and the sense of certainty in the relationship grows, couples find themselves more and…
The connection between sex and food is very common in our society. Many foods are perceived as aphrodisiacs, and the term “pleasures of the flesh” has quite the double meaning. A person who takes pleasure in eating is often presumed to enjoy the pleasures of sex. Many movie scenes combining sex with food were implanted in our minds over the years. The ice scene and the wine and strawberries scene from the movie 9½…
One of my clients asked me once: “why do I have such a hard time reaching an orgasm? I don’t understand what this ‘orgasm’ is that everyone talks about. Even in the rare occasions I did manage to come, I didn’t understand what was happening to me and what I was feeling. It was like a wave of warm heat engulfing me, coupled with currents of pleasure”. The female orgasm is an interesting feeling,…
While working with different women, many have confided in me that sometimes they are frustrated because they aren’t able to communicate well with their partner during sex. For example: “He’s hurting me”, “He keeps touching the top of my clitoris but I like it when he touches the sides”, “He bites my nipples”, “He always wants me on all fours and I don’t always feel comfortable with it”, “He puts his finger inside me…
Awareness is the ability to be present in every moment of your life without your or anyone else’s judgment. It is the ability to accept everything, repel nothing, and create everything you desire in life – bigger than what you have now, and more than you can imagen. Every women is unique and has places she can empower within herself to discover the sexual hidden treasures inside of her. All that is required is…
As strange as it may sound today, up until the 1950’s it wasn’t acceptable, respected or understood, that a woman has the right to enjoy sex. It was always just assumed that she was enjoying it. As a general rule, a woman’s role was to become pregnant and bear children. Because women got pregnant, men assumed they also enjoyed the intercourse. Men’s enjoyment of sex was always granted, tangible and visual while women’s enjoyment…
